How To Find Gratitude When You Hit Rock Bottom

You should be grateful all the time. Practice gratitude whenever you can. Always be grateful for what you have.

If you are interested in the personal development niche, then you must be very familiar with the above statements. Many influencers or success coaches will say you should be grateful at all times, because that will improve your spiritual health, and lead you to the ultimate path to happiness.

Not convinced? Look it up online. You’ll find thousands of articles stating practice gratitude will increase your satisfaction, motivation and energy, at the same time reduce stress and sadness.

Yes. It’s essential to be grateful; we all agree with that. The truth is, it is easy to be thankful when life is good. Say you get a promotion, your partner accepted your proposal, or finally managed to buy your first property, no doubt you will be grateful, because you are happy and things are going well.

But what if you are struggling? Can you still stay thankful and practice gratitude? Highly unlikely.

Let me tell you something. A long time ago, I despised the idea of practice gratitude. I thought it’s stupid.

You see, before I started my self-development journey, I wasn’t satisfied with my life. I used to think: if I weren’t happy, why should I be grateful? That’s like lying to myself. It’s so fake. Does that mean I have to trick my mind whenever I suffer?

That’s why I never treated it seriously before. But of course, now I see being grateful as a crucial part of my life, and I firmly believe it’s even more critical to maintain such a mindset when you hit rock bottom.

I know it’s hard, because it’s counter-intuitive. But you need to know that it’s even more important to be grateful when luck is not on your side.

If you have come across my article, then there is a good chance that you are not happy with your current state, and perhaps finding it difficult to practice gratitude at challenging times.

I can feel you. I still often stuck with negative thoughts when I get unlucky, so I’m in no place to teach. But I think it’s a good starting point for me to write this article because it’ll be a good reminder for us to stay grateful all the time.

You Just Need To Remember One Thing

I’m not going to talk about the wishy-washy stuff like the benefits of practice gratitude. I’m also not going to state the obvious like being grateful is how you turn the tide.

These are not constructive advice at all.

When you are made redundant, when you are experiencing heartbreaks, when you cannot make ends meet, of course, you will be consumed by sadness and worry. It’s just not realistic to expect us to laugh and stay positive when shit hits the fan.

So what can you do about it?

I think there’s one approach I find very helpful, and I am going to share with you here.

You just need to take a deep breathe and remind yourself of one thing.

It’s NOT over yet. It’s NOT the end.

I don’t know what you are going through, and maybe you’re not buying that. But I believe as long as you are still alive, it’s never too late to make a comeback or make up for the mistake. And that’s how you’ll start to see things from a different perspective.

There are ways for you to redeem yourself from your failure.

There are things you can do to rectify the current situation.

When you realize it’s not worst-case scenario, it’ll be much easier to practice gratitude, and then, you’ll break the spiral of self-doubt and depression.

As Steve Job said, you can only connect the dots backwards. If you see things in the long term, then maybe a few years later you’ll find this too trivial and not worthy of mentioning.


Life can be difficult for many of us because of Covid-19. If you think you are stressing and pessimistic, my question for you is, have you still been practising gratitude?

If not, then the quickest way to trigger the mindset shift is to remind yourself it’s not over. It’s a powerful psychological suggestion and it’s very effective, give this a try and see how it goes. I would love to hear what you think about it.

A never-settled millennial that likes to write topics about career and personal finance for the like-minded.

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